
Does your Cavalier King Charles Spaniel bark for attention? Maybe your Cavalier tosses a toy onto your lap, begging for a game of fetch. Or perhaps your Cavalier King Charles Spaniel barks incessantly to go outside and chase every squirrel in the neighborhood. These are classic examples of attention-seeking behavior and, while they may be funny at times, they can also become exhausting.
In this Cavalier blog, I’ll guide you through training your Cavalier to ask for attention politely or, even better, stop demanding attention altogether. But first, let me be clear. I am all about spending quality time with our dogs. Cavaliers thrive on love, play, and companionship, and I encourage plenty of bonding time. However, constant barking or pushy behaviors for attention are not things I would encourage in a dog. With positive dog training methods, good timing, and a proactive approach, we can change this demanding behavior.
Why Does My Cavalier Bark at Me for Attention?
Cavaliers are a playful breed and incredibly intelligent. They are quick learners and can learn behaviors we don’t even know we are teaching them, like barking for attention. Some Cavaliers may learn to bark for attention, paw, nudge, or give you the “look” for that snack. If they have done one or all of these things, and you gave them what they wanted, they’ve already made the connection: This behavior gets me what I want. For example, if barking speeds up dinner prep or prompts you to throw the ball, your Cavalier has been “trained” by their success.
But, don’t worry. You can change these demanding behaviors to better habits. So, let’s get started at teaching your Cavalier to be calm and quiet for the things they want.

Steps to Stop or at Least Curb Attention-Seeking Behaviors
- Increase Quality Time: Cavaliers are highly social and crave interaction. You know that. That’s why they are your breed of choice, right? If your pup is constantly asking for attention, they may feel their current playtime or bonding time isn’t enough. Start by increasing their daily activities by about 50 percent. For example, if you play games with your Cavalier five times a day, bump it up to seven or eight short sessions. The same goes for walks, training, or cuddle sessions. Increase the duration or quantity of their interactive activities. And I do mean interactive vs. just placing a food toy on the floor. Those are all fine and well, but, in most cases, your Cavalier is craving your time. Read more about canine enrichment.
- Get Ahead of the Demands: Observe when your Cavalier typically starts seeking attention. If they usually bark for play at 11 a.m., initiate a play session at 10:45 instead. By starting the activity before they ask, you’re rewarding their good and polite behavior rather than their pushiness.
- Ignore Pushy Behaviors: This is key. When your Cavalier barks, paws, or demands attention in any way, practice the “invisible dog” technique. Avoid eye contact, verbal responses, or movement. Turn away, walk out of the room, or stay still. Once your Cavalier is quiet, calmly reengage and reward them for being polite. But, this only works if you do #1 and increase that quality time together. If you don’t do that, ignoring won’t work because their needs are not being met.
Pro Tip: Be prepared for an “extinction burst.” Your Cavalier may escalate their behavior temporarily, barking louder or pawing more persistently because the old tactics aren’t working. They are getting frustrated. Stay patient and consistent. - Reward Calm and Quiet: Every time your Cavalier is calm and quiet, offer attention, praise, or even a small treat. Reinforcing this behavior teaches them that being polite is the best way to get what they want. This is also the perfect time to initiate a game or play session with your Cavalier.
Teaching self control is a great way to help curb barking.
Patience Is Key
Changing established habits takes time, so be patient with your Cavalier and yourself. Remember, they’re simply trying to communicate their needs the only way they know how. With consistent positive dog training and a little extra quality time, you’ll soon have a polite pup who doesn’t feel the need to ask for attention because you are providing them all the attention they need and desire.
Real-Life Example: Dexter’s “Talking”
Even my sweet Dexter isn’t perfect. He’s been known to “talk” or snort to get his way, and sometimes it works because I’m not perfect, either. Not to mention, there are two other family members who have been known to reward his ask. And, when it’s rewarded, it persists. If I wanted to fully address this behavior, I’d need to follow the steps above consistently and MAKE SURE the other two members of the family do as well. But, in our home, a little talking is something we tolerate because it doesn’t bother us.
That’s the beauty of training: you get to decide what behaviors matter to you. If something doesn’t bother you, there’s no need to change it, as long as it’s not something that should be addressed like anxiety. Just remember that if you allow certain behaviors, it’s important not to complain about them later.
Check out my playlist on barking!
What You Can Do Next
Now that you have the tools to manage your Cavalier’s attention-seeking behavior, it’s time to put them into action. Start by increasing quality time with your dog, introducing play sessions before they ask for attention, and practicing the “invisible dog” technique when pushy behaviors pop up. Remember, consistency is key, and patience will help you both succeed. With time, you’ll see your Cavalier becoming more polite and less demanding, leading to a stronger bond and fewer unwanted behaviors.
What’s your dog’s favorite way to spend quality time with you?
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